I’ve previously talked about how the difference in culture is an important thing to understand when doing business in China, and recently I learned about the wedding culture of Guangzhou (which is a city in the south of China).
Chinese weddings are very different from the traditional North American (NA) wedding, but the NA style wedding has been gaining popularity in China over the past several years – thanks largely in part to diamond companies like DeBoers, who have been marketing NA style weddings in China in an effort to increase sales of diamond rings.
But I’ll keep this post focussed on the topic – weddings in Guangzhou! I was invited to a wedding in Guangzhou, and the first question that came to my mind was “what do I buy as a present?”
I asked a co-worker of mine what the traditional present was in China and found out that there are no wedding registries and there are no presents. Instead, it is customary to give a red envelope with money as the gift. I also found out that the amount you give is dependant on two things. The first is the quality of the restaurant where the wedding will take place, and the second is your relation to the soon to be happy couple. When in doubt, 150 RMB seems to be the safe choice.
So far, this is pretty traditional, but it seems that Guangzhou residents add on a special twist. When you arrive at the wedding, you are expected to give your present to an “accountant” (I’m not sure if this person is a legitimate accountant or someone just acting the role). The “accountant” will then mark down on a list how much money you gave. At some point during the wedding, someone will go through the list and compare the contents of this list with the contents of another list stating the proximity of your relationship to the happy couple. At the end of the wedding as everyone is leaving, someone will stand at the door and hand each person back a red envelope filled with money in it! The amount you receive depends on the closeness of your relationship to the couple (this is the point of comparing the two lists).
So for example, if you are a distant friend, you might receive 5 – 10% of your gift back (a gift of 100 RMB would see you receiving 5 – 10 RMB). The closer your relationship to the couple, the higher percentage you receive back. If you happen to be the boss of the bride or groom, you will receive a minimum of 100% back – yes, a minimum, there does not appear to be an upper limit, but my source tells me that more than 125% is highly unlikely.
And there you have it; a Guangzhou wedding provides a return on your investment – both emotionally and financially.